Keeping you away from other people
1. Does your partner get angry when you
talk on the phone?
2. Does he open your mail?
3. Does he keep you from seeing a friend?
4. Is he angry when you are just a little late
getting home?
5. Does he want you home when he is home?
Always on your mind
1. Do you worry about what he will think about
your make-up? Or how you dress?
2. Do you ask him who you can go see or where
you can go?
3. Are you careful of what you say so that he will
not get upset?
4. Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells"?
Putting you down: Humiliation
1. Does he call you names like "stupid", "bitch",
or "whore"?
2. Does he tell you what is "wrong" with you in
front of other people?
3. Has he made you do things that make you
feel ashamed?
4. Does he say that no one else would want you
or love you?
Threats
1. Does he threaten to leave you?
2. Has he said he will go crazy or kill himself if
you leave?
3. Does he say he will kill you or beat you if you
don't obey?
Feeling sick and tired
1. Does he keep you up late asking you about
men in your past?
2. Do you work so hard to please him that you
feel worn out?
3. Do you feel sick, yet you are not sure what
is wrong?
4. Are you unable to do things you used to do
easily?
Small demands
1. Does he demand that dinner be served right
on the minute?
2. Does he insist that the house look just so?
3. Do you have to report how you spend every
dollar?
Sweet talk and threats
1. After he has been mean does he act sweet
and loving?
2. After he has hit you does he give you a
present or take you out?
3. When you decide to leave does he give you
hope for change?
